If you’re asking yourself this question, you’re afraid! It could be some alternate version of this inquiry but if you’re wondering how things are going to turn out, if you’ll survive *whatever it is that you’re currently experiencing*, or anticipating a potential negative outcome, you’re experiencing fear.
Fear is natural and normal. Depending on the lens we view it through will determine the experience we have. That lens is created by our training. Meaning… our previous experiences that teach us or imprint on us how our future is likely to look.
When high functioning, healthy people generally have patience and reasonable expectations. When they are curious about an outcome they usually arrive at the idea that they’re going to be okay. They either always have or they’ve traversed the scale of safety and ease to know that they have survived everything that’s already happened and that has in fact made them stronger.
Low functioning, struggling individuals attention span is often shorter. I’ve been there, still find myself there, and I’m just trying to put one foot in front of the other. Sometimes living second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour. My capacity of consciousness was/is low. Everything felt like a lot, taxed me, and exhausted me emotionally.
Anxiety can be extremely contagious and I/we have a way of giving it back and forth to each other. BUT, we can slow down though, get present, grab a couple handfuls of gravity and remember that we’re going to be okay. Calm is contagious too.
What do you do to regain your sense of okay-ness?
What have you discovered you were wrong about that you thought would make you okay but doesn’t?
Thanks for your time, have a great day!