We truly live in many alternate realities. We do this all day long and throughout our lives. We live in the past. We live in our fantasies. We also live in the past and in our fantasies and don’t even realize we’re doing it. This is what I describe as time folding over on itself from past inner mapping. My mind contorts meanings, the actual events, and the intention of the story I tell myself both in my head and the one I share with others. Stay tuned…
I’m going to use the term “fantasy” loosely in that it’s not real in the moment that we’re thinking it or in our current experience. This is when we’re doing one thing but thinking about another. Do you need an example?
If life is about bringing our existence into congruence then this natural separation of our perceived reality and actual reality is quite possibly our greatest conquest. This is why we often feel our deepest need is for wholeness. That’s the reintegration of ourselves.
Here are a few examples and reasons why we do this;
A very common reason we do this split is the result of trauma. It’s one of the ways we try to deal with the horrific experiences we’ve been subjected to.
Another reason is for acceptance. We do it to contort our existence (what we think, how we act, our wants and needs) to comply and buy into societies rules so we’ll get connections and love.
And for other needy things like getting attention, gaining sympathy, being rescued, blah blah blah.
The stronger the intention to create a certain effect or outcome, the higher the likeliness to become skewed from the truth. So start to think about what your possible deeper intentions are; is it to feel or not feel something, is it to convey something, get something, convince someone. These are some of the common places where the narratives change.
And when I say “we”, I’m included in that.
Are you aware that you portray things you know aren’t completely accurate?
Why do you bend the truth in the conversations you have at work?
Why do you bend the truth in your communication with personal partner(s)?
Next week I’ll talk about the process of telling yourself and others the truth. Thanks for your time, have a great day.