But how do we face our pain? I think it’s simple but it’s not easy. We simply sit still (and stay awake/conscious), remove all distractions, and other ways to be distracted. We choose to not avoid but rather face the hypocrisies that we’re living and feel the pain in that reality.

Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die. I’m clear that we’re all pretty good at avoiding things that aren’t pleasant. I’m in that camp. Except I’ve had experiences that forced me to my knees and I had no other choice than to be with the grief that had been awarded to me. If I had it my way I would have avoided it indefinitely.

I’ve been talking about the recipe for change lately. Growth = time + intention + pain.

If you’re as good as I am at allowing some unidentifiable fear to constantly creep into your being then listen up, fear is the anticipation that something bad is coming. 9 times out of 10 that bad thing that’s coming means that we’ll lose something. Loss = sadness, which equals pain. So our sophisticated being does it’s magic and it avoids all this. And… it’s all a distraction so that we don’t have to feel the sadness that exists in all of us.

Deep deep down in the belly of my/our sadness is grief. Grief is that special sadness that can only exist because of love. Yes, sweet, sweet love.

So what I’m saying is that when we sit still, face our fears, touch our sadness, and acknowledge how important our connections are we then find our hearts. My greatest hope is that I can make a habit of this more and more and more. Then we start to live a soulful life.

The opportunity:

Put earplugs in, or noise cancelling headphones, put on a blindfold, and sit still for 45-60 minutes. Consider how you can show the important people in your life more love so that when either of you dies you don’t have the regret that you didn’t love them enough.

Thanks for your time, have a great day!