I’ve talked about laws for living fully in the last few years. Law being a “loose” term. To me, living fully means having a great life which could be different for you than it is for me.

But for me I want to experience each moment of my life to its fullest. Grief, sadness, joy, and love are the ones I think are important. I believe this because they are the same thing. You can’t have sadness and grief if there isn’t love. The pure pain is the evidence of the endearment and the connection.

This is no small task and requires a kind of badassery, I made that work up, that must be built and cultivated. If you know you know.

So… habits are built over time and repetition. Bad habits happen without trying while good habits require presence and intention. I’d thought I was worthless and stupid for a long time. I had negative thought loops running at about 100,000 thoughts each day (that’s a lot!!!).

My list is fluid and ongoing but I thought I’d dish out a few that I’ve recent been working on. I could be lazy and weak so things I think are extremely difficult could be easy for you. You might just be way ahead of me and that’s GREAT!

Here you go:

Ask for help, this requires admitting you need it and some humility to go with it.
Be curious, what do you not know? Again… humility.
Seek to see how you’re wrong, your way is not the only way. You should know this especially since your life isn’t the best and it could probably be better.
Have more fun, this is a full time job. I’ve forgotten how to have true authentic good times. Not working out. Not spending money, not doing things at others expense.
Work hard to find the child like part of you, this little person gets locked in a closet and told to be quiet, grow up, quit being immature, and learn to follow the laws of our cultures. (Fuck this!)
Move beyond your parents and childhood indoctrination, we’ve been sold lies. Lies that we’re taught to the people teaching us and who taught them and so on. The buck stops with you. God might mean something different, love might too, sex, relationships, money, death, mental illness, addiction, etc etc…
Forgive
Explore your inner world as well as the external world, these are related. They often instigate each other. This one often couples good with the “be curious” suggestion. Figure out that things, people, and places might be cooler than you think and less scary than you’ve been taught. And… the stuff you’ve been taught to be cool and normal is the most horrifying parts of the world.

Good luck, have fun, I believe in you!

The opportunity:

What is something you’re wrong about and need to own that with a specific person?

When are you gonna own that shit with them?

What’s something you’ve acted like you’ve been sure about and the truth is you’re not?

Who is the #1 person you want to make sure you don’t fail to love enough before you die? (It could be you)

Have a great day and a great weekend.

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