What if you made the choice to take 100% responsibility for absolutely everything in your life? From the money you make to the quality of your effort in relationships to getting the sex you want to advancing in your career. What if you thoroughly assessed what you’re trying to get and owned every single choice you made and how it gets you closer or further to what you’re trying to realize?
As humans we’ve always had the propensity to drift away from the clarity needed to see how we abdicate our power and identify as victims. (Victims in mentality not a person who’s being or been victimized.) The parallel to that resulting in being ineffective and unable to forge and build the reality we desire to.
Here’s the deal… there’s always something to own. Always.
Accounting for our actions, choices, behaviors, and thoughts is a pillar in creating the life you say you want to. For instance, when we decide to do something different than what we said and don’t tell anyone it causes mistakes, misunderstandings, and costs the company money. Often times we then feel stupid and want to blame someone else. We don’t share or own that we fucked up and instead act like an asshole to deflect and try to get other people to feel like they did something wrong. I’ve actually never done this I’ve just heard stories of other people doing it!?
The thing is, a lot of times we don’t even slow down enough to recognize that we didn’t do what we said we would, or lead others to believe. You’re asleep. And not only are you asleep you’ve trained yourself to not see how you do things that you said you wouldn’t or you’re not doing things you said you would.
You’ve trained yourself to be checked out. And you get plenty from checking out and going to sleep. It gets you comfort. It gets you homeostasis. It gets you acceptance and sometimes admiration-you’re not rocking the boat. And if that’s what you want, keep doing what you’re doing. And that’s totally fine. I think if we’re cool with that, be cool. If you’re not cool with it, wake up. Seek that clarity and start owning your choices and the impacts of your behavior. Make adjustments and commit to the long haul of gaining congruence. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it.
Thanks for your time.