Your relationships should indicate if you are, in fact, living the life you say you want to. If your life isn’t the way you want, are you willing to do whatever it take to make it that way?
Think about it… happiness and success is available for you if you do whatever you need to do in order to change and figure it out.
Frameworks, guides, or other methods are available everywhere. Youtube videos, books, and other countless ways are at your fingertips to instigate change, growth, and evolution. But you have to face your shit and what I mean by face your shit is feel the discomfort in your vessel (your body) and not run away through drugs, alcohol, porn, food, fitness, or any other distractions.
If you shrink away and relieve yourself of the stimulus you’ve lost again. You’ve folded and defaulted. We do this over and over and over. When will you stand up and say, “No more!”?
I don’t mean to shame but to give you tough love. The same love others have given me and that I give myself fairly often.
Simply put, you can do better. You can do better and you know it.
And you absolutely need to in certain areas. If you want to find evidence of all the things wrong with the world you will find them. It’s so easy. But it will limit your ability to see what alternatives lay before you and the greater possibilities that are just a choice away.
Peace and love exist and are constantly surrounding all of us. It was there for victims in Nazi concentration camps and P.O.W.’s in Vietnam so it can be there for you. If we put up walls and block that possibility we feel alone and hopeless. And the negative loop will continue. I know because I’ve been there.
Many of us get tons and tons of mileage out of wallowing in failure, losing ourselves in the struggle, and what I call professional victimhood. I’ve got my hand up here again.
It will require you to slow down to see yourself in your story. You have to get present and see your bullshit in real time rather than do the whole “hindsight is 20/20” thing. Change occurs in the present.
How do we develop ourselves?
Are you committed to change, to your own healing, or are you fixed and locked in your current iteration?
￼How does you staying the same benefit you?
What will you have to give up to change?
How would your life be different after that wound is gone?
Thanks for your time, have a great day!