One key to life is managing energies, slowing down or speeding up. Regulate when doing less is needed or going to help or motivating when doing more is needed or going to help.
Our lives, whether working or not working have a tendency to become static and certain. They develop order to them even at times when it’s happening in a way that we refer to “staying in bed with the devil we know”. This is our unhealthy attachment to certainty.
We get stuck, we feel paralyzed, we hate it but can’t seem to get ourselves to do anything about it.
The problem is that we don’t know how to manage risk and we can’t find the courage to suspend safety to attempt at something better.
The only way to change is to disrupt that order and to intentionally create disorder. And when I say disorder I mean do things that are out of the ordinary.
Here’s the deal… disruptions and disorder freak most of us the fuck out! Because of that we get really wound up, we feel powerful sensations in our bodies and get the urgent burning that something must be done now. AND RIGHT NOW!!!
Calm down and learn to control yourself. Slow down. Shut up. Sit still. Nothing has to be done right now, nothing really has to be done later today, and nothing probably needs to be done tomorrow.
Another time I’ll give you my thoughts and lecture you on taking action because that’s another skill you need to be able to summon up too.
Sit still without sensory stimulation (hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, tasting) for forty to sixty minutes every day for the next week. Set a timer and see what thoughts come up.
If/when you do this email me and let’s set up a conversation so I can hear what the experience is like for you.