Life is challenging for all of us. It could be said that the world is a cruel place and damages us all. The horrors of humanity are certainly evident and I don’t believe anyone goes unscathed from the traumas of childhood.
I was a sensitive young boy. I actually remember being very tender.
Some become hard and numb from our challenges in our youth. I know I did. I’ve been saying for years that’s what I had to do to survive. I suppose I was right when I thought that but I’m not feeling that way as much anymore.
I believe that I have lots of lessons to learn around my true strength. The core beneath my outer core. The hard crust of tenacity and dedication cover a fragile and weak part of me. And that part of me is normal and sacred. It’s the most human part of me and the part that has been tucked away for the majority of my life.
“It’s not safe to show it to the world.” I told myself when thinking about opening my heart. Believing I’d be crushed, wounded, or annihilated if anyone saw or touched my soul.
That created all my deepest fears. Don’t be seen. Don’t be vulnerable. Don’t open my heart. The world is out to get me. To hurt me.
Anxiety, stress, and uneasiness all come from separation. Separation from love, from belonging, from god, from something valuable to us, from our bodies, from our community, etc etc.
The pivot here is that fear can paralyze us and create powerful forces of inaction and over analysis. My offer for you to toy with is that fear is actually an indicator that something/someone is important to us. That we feel it’s vital to our existence. Acknowledging what’s important to us and then orienting our behavior and choice around that reality is a powerful way to live life.
And the next offer I have for you is to feel the exhilaration and excitement of your fears rather that the negative potential loss and transmute it into anticipation and pleasure at what’s possible.
Your fears are yours to deal with. They’re certainly there to deliver information and details that ought to be paid attention to. I’m just challenging you to pay attention in a different way.
The opportunity:
Where does your fear come from?
How does your fear serve you?
What does your fear cost you?
How can you see that what you fear is an indicator as to what you value?
Thanks for your time, have a great day!