Hands down a primary building blocks of any relationship is trust. An intimate relationship or a business relationship relies on truth and ability.
trust
/trəst/
noun
firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something
Steven M. R. Covey which is Steven Covey’s oldest son wrote a book called “The Speed of Trust” which is what I’m basing most of this off of. I have a few tweaks that I’ll add since I don’t believe that all kinds of trust can be earned quickly. I do believe we can lose is quickly since most of us have wounds in our love archetype quadrant that have us run for safety at early signs of betrayal, deceit, and the lack of trustworthiness.
For this framework trust is broken into two main categories-character and competence. Character being the type of person you are and competence being how good you are at what you do. So you can be a good person and have no clue what you’re doing at certain things in your life.
Character
So starting with character, it is then broken down again into intent and integrity. Intent being if you’re caring, transparent, and open. This is also where we should talk about having an agenda. If someone is running an agenda but isn’t clear about it, we feel that and it tends to repel people. I think you can have an agenda but it should be transparent and be bought into consensually.
On the integrity side of character there’s honesty, fairness, and being real. Are you portraying yourself as you really are? And do you clean up your mistakes or try to sweep them under the rug. One big key here is you can’t be transparent if you don’t know yourself well enough to know where you’re coming from and why.
Competence
Competence is also broken down into two sections as well. Capability and results. They somewhat go hand in hand since delivering results is usually because of capability but in terms of capabilities there’s skills, knowledge, and how much experience you’re bringing to the table.
The results you deliver over a long period of time help to create your reputation and credibility. This takes time and is something that we all should be striving for throughout the connections in our lives both personally and professionally. Long term high performance directly feeds into the results you achieve and shows the competency you possess.
The opportunity:
Is your agenda clear on what you’re really trying to get/achieve to those around you?
When was the last time you made a mistake and didn’t clean it up?
Do you demand high levels of performance of yourself in the job(s) that you do?
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