I hear all the time when I work with people that they think *so and so should just know*, wrong!! Expectations are best established by communicating them and having some agreements about them. At the very least some loose understandings.
Have you ever been wanting or expecting someone to do something that they never did?
Have you been disappointed that you didn’t get that you were expecting and wonder why don’t people fulfill my needs?
Have you wondered why people don’t treat us well?
Have you gotten a tangible gift and what you really wanted was some quality time with someone you love?
Have you had someone do some wild, crazy thing during sex and wondered where the fuck that came from?
Do you think to yourself, *certain someone* should know how to *certain thing* with me?
So here’s the deal… if you want something you have to ask for it. You can’t expect anyone to read your mind or possess some secret decoder ring from a cereal box or from Tiffany’s. If you want to have more fun or a different kind of fun you have to communicate about it. If you want to be pleased sexually in a certain way, you have to talk about it.
What we want changes, period. And alongside those changes comes the need for communication. Even when what we want doesn’t change, we might aught to go on ahead and state our desires again. I mean, if you want to have them met, but hey, if you don’t or you want to complain, by all means.
Being loved is no different, love can be as unique as each one of us, so custom make that shit and share the ways, hows, and maybe even the whys so that the people that love you can love you the way you want to be loved.
So go out and have some good old conversations with the people in your life.
Thanks for your time. Have a great day.