When I’m working with my clients we cover any and all aspects of their lives. I mean literally everything. What we look at can be shaped to anything a person wants and often things they don’t want. We have to do things we’re disinclined to do in order to change, grow, and evolve.
I often start with these facets:
- Physically, how they sleep, eat, and move their bodies, this can also include how their body looks, how they feel, and how they’re performing (including sexually).
- Mentally, assessing what they’re reading, watching, listening to that’s putting specific content across themselves at a cognitive level.
- Emotionally, do they have access to and are they fully experiencing the spectrum of emotion? (mad, sad, glad, afraid, shame, guilt, etc etc. ) Are some emotions feeling invasive and out of control?
- Mindset work is the relationship between our mental and emotional quadrants.
- And we look at the facet of spirituality.
Here’s where the bomb drops… most people spend the least amount of energy on their spiritual quadrant and say it’s the most important one. This goes for the majority of my clients and I’ll admit that I fall in that category plenty of the time too.
Take that in for just a second.
I talk about our six basic needs as humans: connection, significance, certainty, uncertainty, growth, and contribution. What we experience from spirituality is often all six of those at once. I think that’s pretty fucking dope. Tell me I’m wrong.
I’m going to espouse my own believe here for a bit so I offer this disclaimer ahead of time to warn you. I respect that you may not have any desire or believe in spirituality. Read along for curiosity or check out now.
In my explorations into spirituality this is the thing in the world that I can’t explain. It, literally, is the unexplainable… to me. It’s the part of me and the universe that is a mystery. There are plenty of interesting ideas and who hasn’t heard of countless opinions about what’s really “out there” or “up there in heaven”. In an effort to explain what that is in the world is where religion comes in and it’s where philosophy and other things like myth exist too.
I’m one of these guys who likes to have all my shit together. I like to live in the “known”, I feel competent and powerful there. I like power and because of that I can be a know it all and that doesn’t happen there in the realm of spirituality. This is why at times I avoid it and find it aversive.
Another thing that’s common in my life as well as others that I talk to about this is when I ask about how they are with their spiritual facet the most common reply is either “connect” or “disconnected”. We do usually know if we’re spending time/energy with this part of ourselves or the world or not. Are you?
And… I think that spirituality is like other important parts of our world like relationships… or money… or ourselves, the more time we spend with these things the greater our intimacy is with them. Are you developing that intimacy? In our 1000 waking minutes a day how many are you spending connected?
The point I’m making is that there’s a portal in your reality to another realm. That portal exists in each of us and access to it is your personal experience. Each of us has our own way of utilizing that portal, accessing that other world/realm, and getting/being/existing what is possible only from there.
And since it’s often even the lens we see the world through it shapes everything in our lives from work, health, relationships, grief, and money.
So I’ll ask you:
How is your intimacy with (your)god?
Are you connected to your source of true power?
What do you gain/get/have/become only from connecting to that thing you call whatever it is I’m describing?
Thanks for your time, have a great day!