We’ve all heard about unconditional love but we’ve rarely experienced it or haven’t ever. The truth is, we live our lives trying to get our needs met in lower consciousness ways. Unconditional love that comes and goes is conditional. But we try like hell to believe that it’s unconditional.
My ability to access “persuasive” means to get what I want knows no bounds at time. Meaning, I’m manipulative. Threats. Negative energy. Withdrawing myself from a relationship (pouting), insert sticking out bottom lip gesture here. And that’s the light tactics…
We all have attachments. We identify with certain traits or concepts as “us” and then a part of us, whether conscious or unconscious, adheres to the associated energies that go along with it. So people are mean to me so I identify with being a victim. Boo hoo, poor me. So if that part of me runs the show, I shrink and I play small.
Then in order to try to shift the balance and get my needs met I operate in a way that aligns with that level of consciousness. This is very very fertile ground for conditional love. Boy oh boy do my games come online here.
News flash, we all do this.
What would happen if we approached every engagement or interface with the intent to stay connected? This is where unconditional love can flourish. That doesn’t mean that we aren’t true to ourselves and our own needs but it means that we’re less attached to a certain outcome. (Remember, our attachments are usually connected to a lower consciousness.)
Unconditional love looks like staying connected even through the point in a rupture or conversation where you agree to disagree or even disagree about disagreeing. The connection is maintained and we don’t bail on others and ourselves. This is simple not easy. We’ve all been trained to use disconnect as a tool to get what we want.
The opportunity:
Who suffers from your conditional love the most?
What would that relationship feel like with greater amounts of unconditional love?
What would it take to be vulnerable enough to allow that?
Thanks for your time, have a great day!