Last week I talked about elegance at the end of my live video and my blog post. Remember that the last couple weeks I talked about the drama triangle and how to find the way out. I stated that the main thing I see that’s useful to disrupt the drama triangle is boundaries. I also spoke about identity, clarity and elegance.
There can certainly be a time for doing things in a rough way and just getting it done. And…what some people need a couple serving of is enforcing healthy boundaries with grace and elegance. Especially when we’re looking to express boundaries with people we care about.
I’m going to break it to you that creating happiness and fulfillment is an art…it’s much more of a dance. There’s no scientific equation to creating fulfillment and happiness. This is a balance and awareness of many different components being aligned and in harmony.
Speaking of harmony…I love the analogy of comparing a world class orchestra with all the systems, components and entities that live inside each of us. We need to bring the conductor online that resides in us to conduct each piece of the orchestra. The conductor provides direction on timing, volume, creating the combination of each of the energies to make the most beautiful music that’s possible.
The next important factor is how well we adapt our lives, patterns and practices. Evolution and growth are a couple things we’re wired to do as humans. Adapting from stimulus provided by social and internal energy is a skill that requires skill and practice. Like dancing the tango we feel the movements of the our partner and respond while in motion to create smooth artistic interface. That’s what makes dancing beautiful and the same things apply to how we create our lives with the people around us.