Choosing to play, playing well, and playing to win.
Whatever it is that you’re after in this life there are many ways to move towards it. I want to draw your attention to a perspective. I’ve used this in my own life and I’ve directed others to use this method to face certain things that are “hard”. This is evident in any sport or practice that has the possibility of improvement.
I used to do martial arts in another life. That was a long time ago and now I’m just happy if I can tie my shoes without throwing my back out. Anyway, I found myself in challenging situations where I was getting the shit kicked out of me or I’d get into some precarious situation where I’d lost the edge and I’d been had… meaning, I’d get myself choked out. I loved it. I loved the challenge, I loved the sport, and I loved trying hard at something and getting better and better. Some ego was involved but also I could more easily delineate when I’d been had by a better opponent and respected the capabilities of another. I wanted to learn. In almost any situation there are tactics, plays, maneuvers, and strategy.
In relationships and also in business we have the same opportunity. Create interface in situations where we’re trying to expand our abilities and practice. Letting go of our attachment to the way we think things should be and actually learn what’s needed, in real time, about how to navigate what you’re up against.
Breaking news, it is totally on you to figure out how to have a happy life, how to read the market, listen to your clients. It is on you to navigate the challenges that face your business, your relationships, or any other obstacle that you choose to place in your sphere. If you lose your shit, you’re weak. If you play the victim and say it’s too hard, that’s your choice. It’s on you to have a successful intimate connection. You get to create that. Have fun!
If you start to feel like things are too hard, remember, it was you who chose to play at the level you’re playing at. To buy that car, start that business, live in that house, live that lifestyle, or… to try to change the world in the way that you would like it to be.
Good luck…