The things in your life that you’re not changing are the things that are holding you back.
I had a bit of an awakening years ago. In my narrow minded, low consciousness I couldn’t see that I spent tons of time doing things that made me unhappy and not much time doing the things that did make me happy. It sounds simple, I know, but it wasn’t for me at the time. It was an eye opening realization about allocating time and energy in simple ways to create what I deeply yearned for.
What wasn’t simple was what drove my choices at a really deep level.
Consider for a second everything you want to stay the same… If you have many things that you want stay the same but you keep telling yourself you want to change you’re headed down the same track I was. If you want something to change you have to figure out what you’re attached to that you can let go of. Something has to give.
That means that if you’re attached to everything in your life then you’ll no longer grow or evolve anymore. I hope you have a great life, which you might, but no matter how wonderful it is, it will change. What’s the cost? What’s the benefit?
I’ll admit that I often use dualistic examples to illustrate something. It keeps it simple. This or that. Put your time here or there, choices that can be identified as key factors to bring clarity.
I also try to explain things in such easy terms. It can come across as matter a fact and to me it often is. If you’re not happy, also known as, don’t have what you want, change is necessary. I needed that very simple but easy wake up call years ago and from time to time still.
Our/my ego creates a nice, closed loop system to unconsciously but deliberately limit what options we can actually see. If that’s the case, how can you figure out what you’ll change? And what’s your system of inquiry for that assessment?
So I’m making a short story just a bit long but this is what I’m getting at; take a simple look at how change occurs by not doing things you’re already doing and/or doing things you’re currently doing.
Change will always create sensations that you feel in your body. Those sensations are indicators that you have to learn how to manage. If you don’t mange those sensations you’ll never be able to control yourself and go up against your comfort.
I’m also big on how you use your time. If you want something different in your life, keep in mind where the time is going to come from.
To pull it all together, change requires identifying where you’ll need to limit time in certain places and use it in others, this will create discomfort that you need to manage or you’ll never change.
No matter how relative, how do you manage your discomfort?
Where do you continue to choose comfort that’s limiting you?
If you wanted to use 30 minutes of your time not doing one thing and doing another where would that time come from and where would it go to? (that’s ~3% of your time)